How To Not Fall In Too Deep

We can’t do this alone. No matter how much I insist it’s easier to do things on my own, sometimes, many times, even the sturdiest of us need the helping hand of a friend or two when we find ourselves in too deep in the muck of our lives.

I’ve witnessed that much.

I’ve seen people struggle to get things done on their own, only to run up against one speed bump after another on that crazy road of life, and sometimes that speed bump is a mountain. It has happened to me more times than I care to remember.

Then I’ve seen people lying helpless in a hospital bed with nothing but the hope that someone will think of them. And pray.

One such friend lay in a hospital bed in Miami a few years ago after returning from a less-than-spectacular vacation. The doctors were not sure he would survive, so his family and friends pulled out the big guns. I called my mom who called her prayer group. Other friends called other friends. Soon, we had what seemed like half of Miami praying. (Okay, that’s an exaggeration, but it was more than just a handful!) The subject of our prayers, who had lain comatose and near death for days, began to recover. Now, more than five years later, he enjoys weekends holding the young grandchildren who had not been born back when the prayers went out.

As a hard-headed woman, I tend to think I don’t need help. I stand silent while I’m battered by things that would crush others. I stumble, but never fall. “I’ll be fine,” I say, but I wonder if I’m overextending myself.

No, I don’t wonder. I know I am.

Recently, a friend told me about Light Takers. I knew about Light Givers, people who bring light to those who live here and now, people that attract others like moths to a flame because of the energy they radiate.

Then there are Light Takers. Light Givers can be inadvertently sucked dry by Light Takers. There are ways to protect ourselves, but I wonder if the Light Givers are supposed to allow their light to enlighten the world.

I don’t believe the Light Takers are bad or should be avoided. I dearly love the Light Takers in my life, and I would be lost without many of them.

Like the Lamp Lighter in the story The Little Prince, many of us neglect our own need for relief. We need to protect ourselves.
The Tools

  • BE THE SUN: One suggestion I was given recently has proven powerful – imagine the sun as a dot inside my third eye. Imagine it growing. As it grows, it will fill you with its light to such an extent that you will be full and, like the sun, you will continue to attract as the Light Giver you are, but you will repel any intrusions.
  • ROAD TRIP: I have a friend who tells me road trips are cleansing for the soul. I’m taking that advice to heart. I’m counting down the days until I can start my summer road trip that I plan to be a vision quest of sorts. As the Light Takers in my life become more familiar these days, the only thing that keeps me going is that trip. I plan to visit friends as I hopscotch my way through the month of June. I plan to take tons of pictures and keep a journal as I replenish my own light.
  • FIND YOUR MUSE: For those who cannot dedicate a month to replenishing the light in their souls, another suggestion is to find what brings you joy. For me, the way out is writing (some times) but music all times. That is why many of my blog posts of late have had a soundtrack. For others, their muse may be a baseball game or a trip to the park.


Dear friends, I encourage you to find ways to break from the Light Takers, even if only for an hour a day or a week. Don’t let your light fade because, as I’ve learned from childhood camping trips and barbecues, it is more difficult to start a fire from scratch than to reignite softly burning embers.

Keep the light burning.
Love and Light to you always,


The Dragonfly’s Student


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